dont take it personally guys are wired differently and many dont like after play. The only time you should be concerned if he was a cuddler and now isnt. why men lose interest after sex how to avoid being used for sex. If he did and he wasnt just reeling you in at the time, the non-physical attraction diminished after sex because you started acting differently. If he was initially sizing you up as girlfriend material, its likely he was on the lookout for red flags. there are a few reasons men tend to get distant after sex and a few different ways to handle it. I hate to fall back on biology and perpetuate clichés about the differences between men and women, but when it comes to the way we behave after sex, theres no avoiding it were slaves to our. for a long time the reasons behind why men and women reacted or felt differently after sex was a mystery, but now research has finally shed some light on it. For a long time the reasons behind why men and women reacted or felt differently after sex was a mystery, but now research has finally shed some light on it. Why do some men lose interest in certain women after having sex? I get many messages from women who say that they are unhappy because their men left them for good few days or weeks after having sex. after you have sex, you might look over at your partner and notice theyre behaving differently from you. here is how my twisted mind works right after sex one-night stand. Men may have issues with this, but were all the same, basically, or we wouldnt be males. But, only women tend to understand this, and it seems like the very thing that hurts the worst when a man cheats on them. Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex, perel explains. it is a pr oven fact that sex creates hormones that effect a woman in a way of creating an attachment. When you understand the fundamentals of human behavior, you get that women are nurturers and men are hunter gatherers.